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we'll slowly start making a push. we're not looking to cause a bigger problem than what it is. we know people are happy. we're trying to redirect traffic that's coming into the city. off of some of our main freeways that are taking place. other than that, things are going well. >> we're looking at live pictures now, commissioner, and it appears to be people who are in track, some of those stopping cars. have you had any arrests? >> at the beginning we had a couple of arrests. yes, we have people who are running between cars and not causing problems other than jumping up and down. the bigger concern right now is not feeding more people to come in. if you can advise people we're not allowing more people in the downtown area. we're going to start redirecting them out and probably within the hour. until then we're going to
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celebrate and be happy that the ravens have won. >> thank you anthony batta, baltimore, maryland police commissioner. >> it's hour two. these guys have to get off the streets. it's been an interesting evening here on cnn reporting on this and seeing the blackout at the superdome. i'm not going to pretend i know everything about sports. i know a lot about news but not very much about sports. the difference is, i'll tell you. a lot of people that sit in this seat will just pretend. i'm just being honest. thanks for watching. good night. here's morgan right now. tonight he's back. overcoming stress. >> the secret to success. >> add more value than anybody else and you'll have a chance to win. >> overcoming stress. >> happiness is not here every moment.
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it's not everything it's cracked up to be. meaning is. >> keeping america great. >> our celebration of initiative and enterprise and personal responsibility, these are constants in our character. >> we used to be able to have a dialogue and today it's you're right, you're wrong. >> innings spraeurbl stories and people you'll never forget. the moment you were shot, what goes through your mind? >> you have to get away. >> i went to combat four times. i country my life as my fifth combat. >> tony robins for the hour. this is "piers morgan don't tonight." president obama was sworn in for the second term. america is facing the next four years with much promise and uncertainty. it's been a rough time for the economy. hurricane sandy and the tragedy in newtown. america is looking for answers and hope. tony robins is one of the best guys i can think of to give us both of those things.
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he's changed lives around the world. he's brought some extraordinary guests with him. welcome back. >> thank you for having me. >> america is hurting now. america feels vulnerable, fearful. you see it because of the gun crisis, the financial crisis. it's a crisis amongst americans. do you feel that and what is the answer? >> there's no single answer. you're not going to change the world overnight, but you can change yourself. and i think the biggest challenge we face is we're not just missing our confidence because we're it of control. we're missing it because we need to retool. the world has changed. most people say you have to deal with change. change is automatic. progress is not. we have to develop more than just self-confidence, we have to have self-discipline and self-control. we're part of a culture that for
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part of a decade taught people reenforce your kids from whatever they do. you can't get self-esteem from somebody else, you have to get it from yourself. when you have discipline and self-control and a sense of confidence or certainty, that's when people are able to change their lives. our country has had a series of events that gave us uncertainty. we need to retool. >> on the positive, some of the create periods in american history have followed extremely bad periods. you know post second world war. the country was on its knees. and he rebuilt america. >> yes. . >> in spectacular fashion. there's a precedent. this is not the worst time america has been through, not by a long ways. i think perspective probably has to be brought into this, right? >> it's perspective but also understanding there are seasons. every season has different pains or problems. if you're born in 1910, by the time you were 19, it was 1929. as you were coming of age people were jumping out of buildings.
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in 1939 it looked like the world of going to end with hitler. that group of people that went through that developed emotional muscle. not just intelligence but a readiness that allowed them to change the world. i think this is our season. when trauma happens it either destroys you or drives you. we have to make a choice what we're going to use it for. >> let's take a listen to something president obama said in his inauguration speech. >> a decade of war is now ending. an economic recovery has begun. america's possibilities are limitless. for we possess all the qualities that this world without boundaries demands. youth and drive. diversity and openness, an endless capacity for risk and a gift for reinvention. my fellow americans, we are made for this moment and we will
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seize it so long as we seize it together. >> the president sounding upbeat but recognizing it has been a tough time and there are challenges ahead. how is he doing, do you think? a lot of this comes from a leader in terms of the spirit of a country and its ability to resurge, if you like. is obama the right man? do you like what you see for maybe the second term obama already? >> i love the man. i voted for him originally. in the meeting everybody was a big supporter. i said i love your heart. i know you care. i voted for you the first time. i said i'd love to know how it will be different when there's such demonization going on. i think that's the significant problem in our country. it's not one person. we used to be able to have a dialogue.
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now it's you're right, you're wrong. so i said a conversation with him. if i said you think the solution that you're telling me you're going to do in your next term is you're going to raise taxes on the wealthiest, i'm more than willing to pay that. i said that will raise $80 billion. it's even less because they cut from 250 higher, as you know, the cut-off date. that will country for eight days. that's not even going to scratch the trillion. what else are we going to do? he said i think the republicans will have me to kick around. there's not an election and we'll start working together. there's no chance of coming with intelligent compromise. that's the single issue that's got to shift. the president afterwards -- one man grabbed my hand and said i think that's enough. he said tony is giving us creative tension. he said i would like for you to come to the white house and have a one on one. you have to have a unifying message. we're missing that now. >> everything has changed for america. it was this all encompassing super power.
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now there are many rivals. and that will only increase the next few decades. america has to respond. it can't respond in the way it could have done 50 years ago. >> the president has his hands full, to be fair. he talked about the worst day of his presidency, sandy hook. it's hard to get people to find themselves when with they are aspiring to is depressing. that's not just the president's fault. we as individuals have to find that. our leadership of our country has to say this is where we're going to go. if we can pay our bills and we're going to be okay, that's difficult. to be fair to the president, i think when you seen tears in his eyes it's about the issue of there being a future for young people for the next generation. i think he really sincerely
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cares. >> what is this future going to be in terms of america in corporate, as a business model? a lot of the things manufacture used to be grateful they have changed to dramatically and become so global. you can't come back and do that again even if you had the money to do it. america needs to find other business models, doesn't it? >> well, it is. it's in the middle of it. we're in the middle of that process. in manufacturing there's been growth because we found new technologies to bring us energy. we have more natural gas than saudi arabia has oil. people are coming back because it's cheaper to do business in america. the average american, if we're sitting and waiting for the government to come up with the answer, you're going to have a problem. it's time to retool, say where is the next opportunity? where am i going to go to get the skills because no one else in the government will step up and say here is path way.
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so you've got to find it for yourself. >> how morally responsible should big successful companies, we've seen starbucks do this and apple stick its toe in the water. >> we talked about that last time. >> apple has done that since then. only a small thing. it was a start. it's about the principal of great american companies. in the tech world they lead the world but a lot of the stuff is outsourced outside america. that doesn't really help the american jobs market were even they by being american companies they do it that way. >> i think you have to look at it in the context just like you're talking about looking back through history. if we having this discussion 40 years ago, 30% of americans were farmers. today it's 2%. we don't just feed america, we feed the world. when technology displaces it it's a chance to take the resources and displace it. what's missing is the leadership to say here is where you go. i believe in helping people that are down.
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if you take people for two years and you take care of them and don't give them new skills, they lose confidence and lose certainty. they will become institutionalized and not be a part of the future. our job is to say here are the tools to help you get to the next level of your life. so you can help create the new american revolution. it's a science. it's not well studied. most people know everything about post-traumatic stress where someone has had a trauma and it effects them for the rest of their life. they have shakes, tremors, headaches, can't sleep, nightmares. there are people that have gone through the exact same trauma and have found way to trigger that into a drive and they are no longer broken and they are healed. when they do there's three things people find they have done studies on. if you make it to the growth side, you find out you're more powerful than anything you thought. you're bigger than any event.
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you're still alive. second thing is you find out who your real friends are. not your facebook friends but those people that show up in the relationships and they deepen. and the third thing is it's almost like you have antibodies. you have this set of muscles that allow you to deal with things in the future. what people do in that area is they decide i won't be beaten by that. if i go down this road, i know it's tpoefr. they make that decision and find something bigger than herself. a woman losing her family member to a drunk driver and she started m.a.d.d. now she is making that shift. she has a mission larger than herself. then they start stacking the small victory. out of that they get emotional muscle and are able to help other people. >> does it apply to any form of trauma or are there grades of trauma? >> i've seen it with people that have lost their children and people that have lost limbs. i haven't found any place where
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the human spirit is limited. >> we have a great example of that. i want to bring out a survivor of a high school shooting. he's in a wheelchair. i know you've been working with him. i want to find out what you think about it.
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911. what is your emergency? >> we just had a shooting at our school. we need to get out of here.
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>> ma'am, we got a school shooting. ma'am, what school? >> chardon high school. >> chardon high school? >> yes. >> where is the person with the gun? >> i don't know. he was in the cafeteria and everyone just started running. >> that was a chilling 911 call from last year's deadly shooting in ohio. the shooter killed students and wounded three others including nick. he was shot four times. he and his mother join me now. welcome to you both. >> thank you. >> i remember this happening. another outrage involving guns in america. let me start with you, nick, if i may. you were shot four times. you were paralyzed after what happened. you're in a wheelchair now. the moment that you were shot, what goes through your mind? >> what i really -- what was going through my mind was i had
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to get out of the high school. and really, nothing else flows through your mind. you've just got to get away. you don't have time to think about anything else. >> you were a fit, young sports-loving boy at school, suddenly you're in a wheelchair. the moment of realization for you when you know that that is going to be certainly for the foreseeable future, your new life, it must be a crushing thing to have to deal with. how did you deal with it? >> i had a lot of support. the community, my friends, and my family. probably the best thing that i could ever ask for. >> did you despair? >> i mean, i did, yeah. i did. but like i said, the community, friends and family did help me out. and they helped me not be so upset about what really happened.
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i've just got to move on. >> nick, i'm curious, was there a stage where some part of you just realized if i stay in this place of pain, it will be for the rest of my life, and then you made a decision to change? or what do you think helped you to start to make the shift besides your family? what was it that they did that helped you? >> well, i had a lot of support from other people texting me and calling me that are in wheelchairs. and one of them's scott hasel. he's in a wheelchair. a great guy. he answers any question i have. >> was he involved in the shooting as well? >> no. he wasn't. he was in a diving accident. >> he was able to talk you through, i guess, the psychological journey you were going to go on. >> right. >> because he's been there. >> yeah. because he's paralyzed, too. he knows exactly what i went through.
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people will tell me, you know, yeah, i know. if i tell them it's hard for me, they'll be like, yeah, i know. >> but they don't know. >> you don't know. >> somebody who's been paralyzed, and let me come to you, this is every mother's nightmare. this is your son. he's 17, as he was at the time. and suddenly his whole life changes. i guess your first feeling is, thank god he's alive. and then you have to deal with the fact that he's paralyzed. what was it like for you as his mother? >> it really didn't happen that way. it was -- i think it was just denial at first. i said, nick was shot. then somebody said, oh, he was shot through the shoulder. you know, you're like, okay, what happened? what is going on? you see it all over the news. and then when i got to the hospital it was a lot different. it was like, wow, this is my son. and i just remember him looking at me and he said, mom, i can't feel my legs.
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and that was one of the hardest things to hear in your whole life, you know. >> what is the prognosis, nick? >> they said that they were cautiously optimistic when they came out of surgery. so we're still hoping and praying. you never know. >> tony, it's interesting, listening to nick there, that for all the love and support you can get from family, obviously led by holly, but many friends, family, texting and all that, that's helpful. >> yes. >> in making you feel a little bit better. but actually, it was really the words from a young man who had been through a similar thing. is that something you should look for? a particular support group, knows exactly what you've been through. >> it's somebody who's been through it, but has an outlook that's positive. we call it a compelling future. all human beings when we go through trauma, what gets us through today is if we have a promising tomorrow. tomorrow may not be that i'm able to run, but tomorrow is, i
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can have a beautiful relationship, i can make a difference in the world. i can become a person who has impact. that's the number one thing. something that makes you say, there's something i value more than my today pain. and it's a tomorrow that i want to create for myself. he has that. you can see it in his eyes. we talked a little bit beforehand. i'd be curious if you would be interested. the second thing that usually gets people through this, and i say through it, have a quality lifestyle. there are people who have all the use of their limbs and have a horrible life. they live in pain and frustration. and there have been people through hell on earth and they have magnificent lives. it's really emotional finance. it's a compelling future. if managing your own thoughts and self-discipline and self-control, but it's also having a mission bigger than yourself. since you've been helped, i talk about each one teach one, i wonder if you might be interested in going with me to some of the families at sandy hook and doing what was done for you. i think if you have that experience it will take you to the next level. you're already doing unbelievably well. i had a chance to meet you backstage.
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i think you could go to another level. what do you think of that? >> i would love that. >> let's do it together. >> all right. >> shake on it? >> he came to me a few days after the tragedy at sandy hook and said that me and some of my friends want to go there. we want to talk to them and tell them how it feels, you know, that you're going to be angry, you're going to be sad. every day is going to be so different. >> yes. >> and it will come back. then it will go away. it's a whole healing process. >> there are two traumatic situations. one is being paralyzed. the other one is actually having been shot in a massacre situation, which is really the stuff of nightmares. i suppose my question for you is, how hard is it for you? you seem such a calm, confident young man, despite what's happened to you. how hard is it when other shootings happen, and you hear or read about it? does that bring it all back? >> yeah. it brings me a little confusion, too. like i just don't understand why
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all this happens. this isn't what america was made for. you know, it's just sad. it's really sad. >> what can really make the difference is things happen in life, and when they're meaningless, the pain never goes away. i don't know the meaning. i have the use of my legs. people who have dealt with your situation is when they can find, because this happened, i can make something else better for another human being. that's when there's a positive meaning. you don't wish it on anybody. but only people who have gone through spiritual pain have the spiritual strength to heal other people. i don't mean it in a religious sense. you saying it is different than piers or i or someone else. you have that power, because you made that shift in yourself. this can be the beginning of that journey. >> what ambitions do you have? has it changed your outlook? do you have particular goals now? obviously one would be to get out of the wheelchair. but aside from that. have you set things for yourself things that you really want to achieve?
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>> well, obviously, i had to switch around my career a little bit that i was aiming for. but i really just want a good career. >> what would you want to be? >> i wanted to be just an electrician, in the union. i don't believe that can happen practically right now. so i'm actually taking an auburn class, which is an alternative study class for any electrical components. i'm going to switch to small electronics instead. >> good for you. >> i'll see what i can do with that. >> same kind of thing, just a different way of doing it. >> right. >> which is adapting to what's happened to you. nick, holly, thank you so much for coming in. it's an inspiring story in many ways, an awful story. i think your attitude is absolutely the right one. i think it's right, go to sandy hook and help there. they'll be desperately trying to figure out what their lives are going to be like.
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it's a great example of how you give back and get on with things. thank you very much. >> thank you. >> when we come back, tony and i will talk to a former marine about the post-traumatic battles he's faced in afghanistan and other war zones, and now conquering at home.
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i've been to combat five
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times. see what i've seen. the death, the funerals, been around a bunch of explosions. i have light sensitivity, and ptsd. i've been through so much trauma. >> here on the front lines, speaking out about his troubled journey back from war, casey wilson. served in afghanistan, kosovo and iraq. tony robbins helped him overcome post traumatic stress disorder, something a lot of soldiers suffer from. it's powerful and moving address you gave there. you can see the physical effects. you were shaking and you've clearly been through all sorts of trauma, in different ways. before you met tony, what was your life like? >> i was doing a lot of current therapy, you know, psychiatry, psychology, which i started in 2011. 2010, i started doing -- trying
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to figure out my life, because i went through a second divorce. and so i didn't understand the whole process, why was i feeling this way? so i started to seek treatment at that time. i was going to acupuncture, healing touch, meditation. >> did it help, any of that? >> yes. it was helping to an extent, you know. like i said, i was just 20-plus years in the marine corps. i had severe trauma at a child which i never realized was a problem until, you know, i just added more stuff after more stuff in my life. >> why don't you tell them what your symptoms were at the time. >> basically insomnia. i would probably sleep four or five hours a night, but i would wake up 45 minutes to every hour. i would have severe tremors. i was -- before i knew of my
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light sensitivity, i always had headaches and migraines. i would have to go into dark rooms, take a nap. and, you know, i would just be breaking down myself in a sense. >> what was the rock bottom moment for you? >> the rock bottom moment for me, in a sense, was -- it was after my second divorce. just being -- i pushed so many people away. i couldn't figure out why i felt this way. i deployed eight times. you know, i went to combat four times, but i count my life as my fifth combat. you know, deployment. i've been fighting myself prior to -- in my younger age, until my age i am, 39 years old, when i went to date with destiny december 1st where, you know, i needed to get a little bit of motivation, because here i am about to retire from the marine corps. >> tony, there are tens of
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thousands of american service men and women who go through similar trauma. it's been a terrible period for the american military. constantly in combat in various countries. what do you say in that situation? >> it isn't just saying. we've done this with hundreds of wounded warriors and different soldiers. inside every human being, we have trauma. his was extreme trauma. there's a personality in him that was beyond wounded. but inside of everyone, there's a part of you that's whole and strong. that's truly untouched by the experience. so what i had to do is find out -- he was trying to express his pain, and i felt that. then i got him to connect to a part of himself that is whole. this part you can see on camera, we gave it a name. the name was tigger. when he changed to that kind of personality, his glasses came off, he was able to see without the headaches. he stopped tremoring. he had been shaking like this for hours. all that stopped literally in minutes. an hour later he was on stage with a group of, about 2,500
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people from 80 countries rocking them, sharing his mission for his life. he found something greater than his pain. he found something he wanted to serve, like he served for his country. now it's to serve other people. >> is that a regular problem for people coming out of combat zones, i have military people in my family, and when they're home, they get listless and restless, and start to feel strange, just not being where they're used to being, in that dangerous environment. >> we don't know how to open up, or express our -- tell our story either. that's also part of the problem. and the other part, too, as well, is being accepted in society. you know, because there's a brotherhood in the services around the world. and we have a problem when we come out of the service, you know, to the civilian world where people will judge us and use -- if they find out about our trauma, in one way or another, will use that against us. there is no brotherhood that i
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would say in a civilian community. >> when you see people who have gone through, what my previous guest went through, a school shooting, a young man and all the trauma that's happened to him. what do you think of that? what advice would you give him? >> basically he has to take back his life. finding forgiveness, you know, it's more finding forgiveness for himself so he can find peace in his life. he has so much potential that he's able to basically be able to impact and change so many people's lives. >> tony, is that a regular thing, too, if you feel too angry and bitter about what's happened to you, that's a huge barrier to being able to get through it? >> it's not just a barrier to get through it, science shows five minutes of rage, you certainly have the right to have, and what he's been through in his life, will shut down literally your immune system for four hours. what successful people do is they stack victories.
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that's also what we did with him. we said there's a different set of rules. you can't come as a marine, you've got to come as a guy who was whole. what was it like before. when he tapped into the playful guy who has this jump in his step and is laughing, that's when the glasses came off and he said i want people to see my baby blues. people were cheering. he got to feel this connection with people at a human level. that's what changes it. it's also having something you value more than your pain. he values mission. he values being able to make a difference. he needed a new mission back here at home. he has a new mission back here at home. >> good for you. thank you for your service. >> thank you. >> which is still actually ongoing you told me. we wish you all the best for it. more importantly, it was your life and the comeback you've made. extraordinary to see. >> thank you. >> good to see. >> coming next, a man who lost everything and is now worth $50 million. we'll find out how he did it, coming up next.
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president obama is trying to create more jobs. but many americans are still out of work. mike is a business owner who lost everything in 2008. i mean everything. now he has overcome the financial ruin and runs two businesses with revenues $50 million. congratulations. >> thank you. you've known tony for 17 years. and you've been up and down in that period of time. >> correct. >> tell me quickly the journey you've been on. >> i started off coming from a very challenging background, single mother, raised by a single mother. had no education. and really, no hope. and what i always say, i was lucky that i was put in front of an icon of empowerment. >> he is. every time i interview him, i feel empowered. >> that's true. what he is is an incredible educator. by the grace of the universe i
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was able to fall in the lap of this educator. he helped get me out of that place where i was, where there was no hope. >> he was homeless at the time. what i love about mike's story, is mike just didn't help himself. he built a small business to start with. one of the young women who worked for him was addicted to meth. is that right? share the story and how you ended up in your new business. >> the young woman had come to work for me a number of years ago. you could tell something was wrong. she was addicted to methamphetamine. she was a daily user of ecstasy. i got her involved in mr. robbins' program. within 30 days, she was completely off drugs. it turned out her father, her dad was incredibly successful in the metal recycling business. i got a call from him shortly thereafter who said anybody who has influence over human beings like this i need to do business with. gave up half a million for me to start my company, cosigned, for a ton of equipment. seven months later he allowed me to buy him out.
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years later, i continued to grow and grow and grow. >> amazing. >> until 2008. >> you built up this $13 million business. and then you literally almost lost it overnight in the big crash of '08. >> it was interesting. four months before the crash, tony calls me and says, mike, you need to prepare. and as everyone in the country kept saying, we're strong. the economists are saying, we're strong. i didn't listen to him. i should have listened to him. >> why wouldn't you listen to tony robbins? >> things were going great. >> that was mainly thanks to him. >> i know. that's true. overnight, as you know, the economy collapses. the metal business completely collapses. >> when that happened to you, and having gone from literally nothing, you were a homeless guy to $13 million business, and then it all disappears, what was that like for you? >> i didn't care about losing the material possessions. i had a 3-year-old son at the time. he's now 7. the only thing that was going through my mind was, how do i face my son. from the day he came home from the hospital, i was determined he was not going to grow up in
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the same environment that i did. and all i wanted to do is have my little boy sit on my lap when he was old enough and say, you know what, there's nothing you can't do. you can become anything. i don't want my boy to look up at me and say, daddy, if that's true, how come you haven't done it? that was what was crushing my heart. i just could not fail. and come up with an excuse for this little boy. >> tony, can anybody be like this? or do you have to have a little bit of ferocity of spirit? >> i think ferocity of spirit is critical for everybody. but we all have it. it's like a muscle. >> do we all have it? >> sure we do. but courage unused becomes weaker. determination unused gets smaller. passion unexpressed gets smaller. like any muscle, the more you use it. he's been using it for years. his son, here's the other thing, he had a reason larger than himself. you see the pattern of all the people who have overcome. at the time he said he was worried about his employees and he really cares about his people. here's the secret. but you have to make that shift where it's no longer an excuse. if you give yourself an excuse,
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humans will take it. if you're going to take the island, you burn the boats. and he burned the boat and said i'm going to find the answer. he shifted to psychology and got the skills. like i said earlier, it's not just confidence. you have to have skill. he had both. he found the way. show them what you did. >> after that particular business mastering program, as tony said, 80% of it is psychology, and 20% of it is mechanics, or the strategies. unless you get the psychology down, the mechanics don't matter. i can tell you, from that day in november of 2008, where i made that decision, that i was not going to fail, and i kissed my lady and said, i'm going back to work, and we went out there and i learned how to export. and when there was no market for steel in the united states, i was able to export to several different countries. and we took off from there. we continued to grow. and it was just, again, about a mindset. it's about having a level of pride. for me, it was coming from where i come from, the name didn't mean a whole heck of a lot.
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i was determined to change that. it's something i call generational influence. i'm not doing this for me. i'm doing this for my son. >> is that good advice, tony? there are millions and millions of americans out of work. many suffering very hurt pride. never mind anything else and real financial hardship. is that a good focus to look at children, to look at other things and say, you know what, stop feeling sorry for myself, it's for him, for her, for that. >> most of the -- i think what's beautiful about most human beings is we'll do more for others we love than we'll ever do for ourselves. and motive does matter. if you just try to do something for yourself, you only get a certain level of insight. if you do it for others, it comes to a level of insight. mike got the belief out of business mastery that money is still changing hands. i need to find out where to get that to add value to people's lives. where do i get it and where is that value available? >> what do you say to the people suffering in america right now? >> tony is absolutely right. we need to take the focus off of
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ourselves and stop feeling sorry about ourselves. it's about serving humanity, it's about serving people. it's all about service. and we have just got to get out there. tony talked about earlier about retooling. it's about learning new skills. when i talked about finding an icon of empowerment, whether it's anthony robbins, whether it's someone like oprah winfrey, a school or university, you need to get in there and learn the new skills. then you've got to get out there and you've got to perform by serving. serving humanity. it isn't about me, it isn't about me making money or dollar amount, it's about protecting the people that i love, the people that i care about. if you follow that formula, you cannot fail. >> what i said earlier about bitterness and anger and resentment, self-pity is also a complete waste of time and energy. it's perfectly understandable. all of those emotions are just barriers to getting back on your feet, aren't they? >> that's correct. all emotions serve. anger, frustration, it's all valuable, but not if you live there. all those emotions that create
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pain, they're designed to get you to change, to do something. if you just sit and live in the emotion, and you don't do anything, the pain just gets deeper and it becomes your groove and your grave. if you shift those emotional states, which is what we teach people to do, physically, not fake positive thinking, but with a real strategy, a real action plan, that's all business is, add more value than anybody else does and you'll have a chance to win. that's what he's done. >> great story. mike, great inspiration. mike, good to meet you. >> my pleasure. tony gives you five ways to immediately change your life. [ female announcer ] when a woman wears a pad she can't always move the way she wants. now you can. with stayfree ultra thins. flexible layers move with your body while thermocontrol wicks moisture away.
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back now with my special guest, tony robins. it's been a fascinating hour to meet three people with different experiences. common themes being, they've all had knocks in their lives different degrees. >> yeah. >> which have caused a lot of emotions. it's really how you deal with those emotions. you got a five point plan that anyone can follow to get over stress and trauma.
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walk me through it? >> i want to make one thing clear. the quality of your life is where you live emotionally. we all have a home. angry people find something to be angry about. sad people find something to be sad about. one thing you have to identify is where are you living, what's your home? what's your habit? the way to change it, when i was at home getting starts, i didn't have the internet, i decided i had to go to the library and feed my mind. the first stage is, weeds grow automatically, one of my teachers taught me, stand guard to the door of your mind and feed it something good. if your worst enemy puts sugar in your coffee you're good. if your best friend by accident puts strychnine, you're dead. 30 minutes of reading something. second, strength. have you to strengthen your body, and the reason is, fear is physical.
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so is stagnation and numbness. so is sadness and rage. when you go in to change your body by intense walkout or intense walk and the blood's flowing through you, it instantly changes your biochemistry. the third thing, all these people found a mission bigger than themselves. they aspire to something more than their pain. almost everybody finds a role model that makes it real. i was with the youngest billionaire. we have this roundtable about the future. you listen to this woman. when women meet her, they don't just love spanx her product. she's a role model of what's possible. you become a role model, it becomes real to you. if you take massive action. the last step, there's always somebody worse off than you are much i don't care what you've done. if you can help somebody worse off, you put your life in perspective, and it also reminds you, life's not about me, it's about we. the secret to a great life, the secret to living is giving. when you realize there's something still to give, even if you lost your legs, you've been
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through a horrific financial situation, your life can improve meaningfully. >> if i said to you, you're fabulously successful, rich, famous, super fit good looks guy. >> you sound like you're describing yourself here. >> if i said to you, you can have any one thing, can you have good health, you can have money, the fame that allows you to inspire people. what would you choose? >> certainly i think without health, you're not around to do anything, it's a life about meaning. feeling like your life matters, because you've had the experience, you and i both have lots of friends that have achieved everything they could every dream of, and they're miserable. meaning comes from two things. happiness comes from progress. if you can do something where you're growing and because have you grown, have you something to give to other people that's meaningful, insight, love, caring, something, then life is
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rich. happiness comes and goes. happiness is not here every moment, happiness is not all it's cracked up to be. meaning,there are people who have gone through horrible times. a woman who was 109 years old, she was in the concentration camps, that woman's life is so rich because of all the pain, she's used that to help other people. still at 109 she's strong. she shares her music, does the things that make her feel like she's got a contribution. at 109, she's fully alive. amazing. please come back. >> thank you very much. for those nights when it's more than a bad dream, be ready. for the times you need to double-check the temperature on the thermometer, be ready. for high fever, nothing works faster or lasts longer. be ready with children's motrin.
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